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Are we destined to have a soul mate, just as Adam had Eve? Or if we don't find one in this world, will we find one in heaven?

Back in the beginning, God's original plan was that Adam should have a wife or a "help meet" as the King James Version puts it. Here is what Genesis 2:18 says, "And the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him." (New Living Translation). So we see that God created Eve for Adam and this was the perfect will of the Lord; but after a short time, sin entered the world and there was no longer perfection on the earth.

As we look at different examples throughout the Bible, we find that not everyone was married. The Scriptures never mention that Daniel had a wife, nor Elijah. We can conclude that it's not always the Lord's will for everyone to find a spouse. Although marriage is a sacred institution designed by God Himself for the benefit of mankind, Jesus seems to suggest that marriage is not the ideal situation for some people (Read Matthew 19:9-12 carefully). Yes, it would be nice, but the Bible never promises a soulmate for everyone and that is because God has different ideas and purposes for each one of us.

The apostle Paul was not married when he wrote these words in 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 "But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion." Paul indicated that it's actually better for Christians to stay single if they can lead this type of lifestyle without being distracted by passion for the opposite sex.

But why would he say that it's "good to remain" unmarried? Paul explains further in verses 32-35 "But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord--how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world--how he may please his wife. There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world--how she may please her husband. And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction." Marriage was designed to be a blessing from heaven, but people who aren't married have an advantage because they can devote their whole attention and ability to serving Christ, while those who are married need to focus on keeping their spouse happy and providing for their family, which makes it more difficult to serve the Lord wholeheartedly. As the New Living Translation says, a husband "has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided."

Another aspect to consider is this: some of the people in the Bible that chose a mate picked the wrong one. Take Samson for example (Judges 14:1-3 & Judges 16:1-22) and Esau (Genesis 28:6-9). Ahab, who was once the King of Israel, made a horrible choice in selecting his wife Jezebel, who often led him away from God and persuaded him to sin (1 Kings 16:30-33, 1 Kings 19:1-2, & 1 Kings 21:25-26).

Maybe it's God's will for you to find a soul mate and maybe it isn't. This is something that you will need to pray about until you know what the Lord's plan is for your life. If marriage is what God has in store for you, then He will also lead you to the person that is right for you. Just stay open to his leading because He promises to direct your way, as long as you look to Him for guidance instead of trusting in your own impulses and desires (Proverbs 3:5-6).

Now as far as finding a soul mate in heaven: According to the Bible, it looks like the answer is "No" and "Yes". What is that supposed to mean? Well, the teachings of Jesus lead us to believe that there will not be any new marriages among the redeemed in heaven: "And Jesus answering said unto them, The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage: But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage: Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection." (Luke 20:34-36, compare with Matthew 22:30-31 & Mark 12:25) Now there are only a few passages of Scripture on this, so we don't know all the details about marriage in heaven. One thing that we do know is that no one is going to be disappointed with the paradise that God has in store for the followers of Christ: "As it is written: "Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, Nor have entered into the heart of man The things which God has prepared for those who love Him." (1 Corinthians 2:9)

And here's some great news for you: The really interesting part is that Christians are referred to as the bride of Christ. Paul said to the believers in Corinth, "For I am jealous for you with godly jealousy. For I have betrothed you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ." (2 Corinthians 11:2, see also Isaiah 61:10, Ephesians 5:22-33 & Hosea 2:19-20) And Jesus is often called the bridegroom (Matthew 9:15, John 3:29, Isaiah 62:5). So the Bible tells us about one wedding that will certainly take place in heaven, and that is the marriage of Jesus and His church: "Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready. And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints. And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God." (Revelation 19:7-9) This means that if you are a Christian on your way to eternal life, then you will meet your perfect "match made in heaven": Jesus Christ!